Online dating services tips - Part 3

In our previous two articles on the subject of using online services for dating and romance, we discussed getting started and making decisions. In this article we examine how to pick early warning signs and getting out of trouble.

Warning signs

Watch for any aggression, unreasonable frustration or any attempts take power over you. You should be concerned if they lack respect towards you or are demeaning in anyway.

If they are like this early on in the relationship, imagine what they will be like further down the track. Don't be fooled to think that they might just be nervous or showing off. This is behavior that cannot be tolerated from the beginning.

It would also be wise to take notice of information they provide about themselves. If they are inconsistent with their age, interests, appearance, marital status or any personal information, this could be a warning that they are hiding something.

Other things to watch for include:

Never introduces you to friends, family or work colleagues.
Fails to give you honest and direct answers to direct questions.
Acts differently than the relationship you established online.

Once again, trust your instincts. If it does not seem right to you then it probably isn't. Walk away and cease all communication. If you need to seek out a policeman - do not feel embarrassed. Your personal safety is worth it!

Interstate/Overseas dates

If you are arriving from another city or country to meet your online date remember you are going to be in unfamiliar territory. Do not tell this person where you are staying and don't let them make your arrangements for you. When you meet them, in an agreed location, leave if you do not feel comfortable. Once again, let your family/friends know exact details of the arrangements you have made. If possible, carry a cell phone at all times.

Getting out of trouble

If you ever feel under threat or afraid of your date, use your common sense to get out of the situation. Excuse yourself and slip out the back door and drive away. If you feel this person is dangerous to you, such as they have your address, call the police. Don't worry about what others will feel about you or being embarrassed. Looking out for your safety is more important then a little embarrassment.

Remember

There are bad people online but you will also meet these people in nightclubs and in offline dating services. You may even meet them at a friend's party, a local supermarket, in fact anywhere. Dating is never totally risk free but with common sense and trusting your instincts, you have a much better chance of remaining safe and perhaps meeting the person of your dreams.

We hope that you've enjoyed this series and found it to be valuable. Remember to keep checking back for new articles and service reviews. Until we see you again - happy online dating!